In serious matters, it is not enough to appeal to the head.

We also have to appeal to the heart. This may require taking on some suffering voluntarily.

1. Go deeper: Watch David Hartsough tell his famous story on, among other things, not retaliating.

2. Practice: Reflect on a time when rational arguments did not work for you while heart-centered actions did, even if it meant forgoing some comfort. Describe that moment and what motivated you to take on—instead of inflict—the suffering of the situation. What was the result?